“I’m Fine”: The Words That Hide the Truth
By Namrata Chaudhari, Thought Leader in DEI & Mental Health Advocacy, 30 July 2025
Arvind and Kavita worked in the same organization and were admired across teams for their consistent excellence.
Arvind, fondly known as Mr. Dependable, had a gift for solving problems calmly under pressure. Kavita, meanwhile, was celebrated for her ability to juggle multiple roles with poise — colleague, mother, wife, daughter-in-law — and still deliver outstanding results.
On the surface, they embodied balance and strength. But behind their professional brilliance, both carried invisible weights — stress, expectations, and unspoken fatigue.
Arvind’s father had been hospitalized for over a month. Between hospital visits, family responsibilities, and deadlines, he didn’t take a single day off. “I’m fine,” he said, every time someone asked.
Kavita’s days began before sunrise and stretched late into the night. She strived for perfection in every role, often sacrificing rest or self-care. Even on weekends, she never paused. Every Monday, she showed up at her desk smiling, saying the same words: “I’m fine.”
But neither of them truly were.
Arvind was silently wrestling with exhaustion and anticipatory grief. Kavita, with relentless emotional labor and burnout. Yet both carried on — because asking for help didn’t come naturally.
Until one day, things broke the surface.
Arvind snapped at a teammate over a minor error — a rare outburst from someone known for composure. The room fell silent until a colleague softly asked, “Are you okay?” For the first time, Arvind exhaled — and allowed himself to be vulnerable.
A week later, Kavita fainted at work. During her check-up, the doctor asked gently, “When was the last time you sat quietly, just for yourself?” She couldn’t recall.
Those moments became wake-up calls — not just for them, but for their teams and the organization.
In response, the company introduced confidential counselling sessions, mental wellness days, and flexible work arrangements — not as perks, but as pillars of support. Because well-being isn’t a benefit; it’s a necessity.
Over time, both Arvind and Kavita healed — and learned to drop the mask of “I’m fine.” That single change transformed how they led, worked, and lived.
And that made all the difference.
Self-Reflection: Questions to Ask Yourself
- How often do I check in with myself the way I check my emails?
- During difficult times, am I as kind to myself as I am to others?
- Am I brave enough to share how I really feel — if not with everyone, at least with someone I trust?
Key Takeaways
- We often glorify silence and endurance — while hesitating to say, “I need help.”
- Equity begins with awareness — recognizing that different people have different needs.
- Asking for help doesn’t make you weak; it makes you human.
- You never truly know what someone else is going through. Be kind — always.
Closing Thoughts
Let’s make a conscious effort to extend empathy not just outward, but inward. Because inclusion isn’t only about others — it starts with I, Me, and Myself.


